“See what love the Father has bestowed on us that we may be called children of God. Yet so we are. The reason the world does not know us is that it does not know Him.” – 1 John 3:1 Recently, I was able to take my teens on our annual Winter Retreat with five […]
“You are witnesses to these things.” (Luke 24:48) That final line in the Gospel should convict you, haunt you, and make you feel incredible joy. It should linger like incense that clouds an altar in mystery and stirs something inside of us that excites our soul – something incredible is happening here. It is a […]
If you’re a youth minister, you know how much change our middle school students go through. The 6th graders are still so young and innocent while our 8th graders are trying to grow up faster than their bodies and age are allowing them. I still think it’s fun watching the 8th grade girls tower over […]
I love cleaning. My vacuum is one of my best friends. Okay, not really, but the OCD nerd inside of me did get excited about the new dustbuster I just purchased. I guess because deep down cleaning gives me a sense of control. I used to say that either my house or my office could […]
Doubting Thomas? (John 20:19-31) “Unless I see the mark of the nails in his hands and put my finger into the nail marks and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.” John 20:25 Why are we remembered for our mistakes, our moments of doubt and stupidity more than the moments of deep […]
If you have ever been blessed to be by the side of a loved one while they breathed their last breath, you know the sound I’m about to describe. It is a haunting, raspy, rumble that stems from the depth of the lungs, slowly rising to the mouth and escaping the lips. I have never […]
I love to be in the kitchen. I love to cook and bake, and constantly dream up new delicious treats and creative dishes to “test” on my family. Thankfully, they usually turn out pretty good (and at worst, edible) but I never seem to be satisfied. My wonderful husband is always quick to praise my […]
In my fourth grade basketball game, I whipped the ball down the court to my teammate so she could take a shot and we could win the game; in my seventh grade soccer scrimmage, I ran over another girl on the opposing team because I wanted to beat her to the ball; in my high […]
“You want me to do what? Teach the eighth graders in our parish school religion three times a week? Heck yes!” I’m a youth minister – how can I say no to more time hanging out with youth and sharing my faith with them? Sure, this might be a bit more complicated, since this course […]
One of my favorite coffee chains is Dutch Bros. The coffee is fantastic, and it’s the only coffee shop I’ve ever been to that makes me want to dance at 6 AM due to their crazy, upbeat music (beware, all you non-morning people). But there is also something very special about their customer service that always […]
As I type this, I am just days away from celebrating my oldest child’s birthday. I remember that day, three years ago so well. One of the first people I called after my son’s birth was the priest at my parish. He, along with our parish staff, the youth I serve, and their families journeyed […]
Three years ago, the Lord invited Life Teen to Haiti to serve the youth and young adults in Petite Rive. We had no idea what the Lord would have in store for the day to day of the mission, but we knew He was calling people from the US to serve. Being a parish based […]
You are certainly welcome for what is now sure to be an entire day full of Frozen stuck in your head. Hopefully you’ll forgive me, because by the end of this article you will have a few secret ingredients that will allow you to grow your program to insane numbers. I mean, you really should […]
This year, the Life Teen movement is made up of 1753 parishes in 28 countries. How could one possibly feel at home in so many different locations? As a U.S. Military Brat (one who grew up as a son or daughter of a military parent, a term of endearment, really), we have a phrase “Home […]
Imagine that your young adult son walked out your front door one day in early December, and that you haven’t heard from him since. Imagine that you get a phone call from the police in late January telling you that they have found your son’s car in front of an abandoned house. Now imagine your […]
Every Spring I get several calls with the same question: “I don’t know what is happening but our numbers are dropping. We are planning great Life Nights, but the teens aren’t coming.” I then ask three very important questions: How often and in what ways is your Core Team praying together? What type of relational […]
I have learned the hard way that being a youth minister involves ministering to teens and the parish as a whole. After returning to the parish sleep deprived because I lead a Confirmation Retreat for over one hundred teens, a parishioner approached me. She wanted to inform me that a cupcake she purchased at our […]
As youth ministers, we love serving teens — even when we don’t know them. But in a small, rural community, you know everyone — every family member, problem, and heartbreak. A rural community is my ministry reality. In the darkest times, I witness the most amazing blessings. This past year one of my favorite teens, […]
I’ve never been good at the whole “showing emotion” thing.
Even at my own wedding, all I could really muster was some goofy expression halfway between a smile and a bout of painful gas. I’d love to blame it on a face-muscle issue or a bad burrito, but to tell the truth… I just don’t get it. I’ve always been uncomfortable with big emotional expression, and more comfortable with words as opposed to the wibbly-wobbly world of emotional display. To be honest it makes me love my poor wife more given the robot to whom she’s sacramentally bound.
The east coast of the United States was getting a healthy dose of fluffy white snow when their latest Life Support shipment arrived with the perfect Life Support toy: A snowman kit. I’m sure many of you (especially parents) had flashbacks of a certain hit song from a certain animated film as soon as you […]
Our Vice President pulled out all of his best facial expressions to convey to you just how awesome this year is going to be. This year Life Teen turns the big three-zero. (That’s 30 for those of us who don’t want to do the math.) We thank God for these past 30 years and are […]
I began to think that maybe I’d keep quiet about the March for Life and be pro-life on a smaller scale. Have a holy hour to pray for an end to abortion. Show “October Baby.” Keep it simple and — most importantly — indoors. Then Blair joined our parish. A sophomore who had attended the March for Life with her Catholic school the year before she moved to Florida, she was glad to hear I had also attended.
You are invaluable to youth ministry. You are an example to the young women of the parish of what it is to be a catholic woman, wife, and perhaps mother. You are the strong heart to hold up your husband when he is troubled with the sad stories of his teens. You are the cheerleader encouraging him on when he wants to give up. You are the warm welcome at the end of a long night or weekend away.
For seven years, our parish would gather together in celebration at the 5:00 pm Mass and the teens would retreat to the gym from 6 – 8:00 pm for our Life Night. It had been working, and it was familiar. Early last summer, I began praying through our fall schedule and I was immediately drawn […]
Recently I was hosting our first Confirmation retreat of the year. The retreat was a basic kergymatic retreat with talks on God the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. We incorporated elements such as Mass, praise and worship, Reconciliation, and Eucharistic Adoration. It wasn’t an especially fancy retreat but it wasn’t without substance either. Since […]
Sometimes it’s hard to not let this exhaustion and “over it” mentality seep into our spiritual lives when our jobs are all about Jesus. There have been many a day for me that I could tell you every Catechism reference and Scripture passage about the institution of the Eucharist, but not the last time I truly felt moved by this loving sacrifice.
As a control freak, (and I know I’m the only youth minister who fits this description…) I love having another chance to improve on my past imperfections. Entering into the New Year is often when we get excited about hitting that Reset Button in certain areas of our lives so we can do better, improve ourselves, and be Christ to those who need it most. Particularly in ministry, this time of year can lend itself to reflection between semesters and provide some much-appreciated prayer time. Imagine Rob Schneider from the “Waterboy” cheering you on saying, “YOU CAN DO IT!”
We live in a culture of compartmentalization. In the hustle and bustle of our schedules and our commitments, the ability to keep things in their proper place is sometimes all we can do to stay sane and keep all the plates spinning. However, this way of life has a way of casting a false sense of importance on the passing things of life while encouraging us to keep the things that really matter from crossing over into the other spheres of life.
No one likes to be late to church. In my 23 years of experience showing up late to church is just plain awkward. There are several reasons for this. You make a loud noise. No matter how hard you try, there seems to be a loud sound that accompanies you when you finally sit down. You can’t find a […]
Let us not forget that Life Teen is a relationship-centered ministry. As youth leaders, we should always be engaging in relationships with teens and encouraging them to a deeper relationship with Christ. Don’t miss out on the teens in front of you!
“It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas…” unless of course you live in the many parts of the world that don’t get snow, it still looks like fall, or summer. Nonetheless it is the time of the year to put on your slippers, whip out the hot cocoa, kick up your feet, blast the Christmas tunes, and have lots of Christmas Social Nights. Right?
As we prayerfully consider how we should progress in the day-to-day and the year-to-year aspects of our programs, we have the freedom to call out in exhaustion and even frustration that we want to quit. We have the freedom to question and say to Our Lord that we’ve tried something over and over before to no avail. But, when He speaks back to us, we need to be open to the fact that He may send us back out there to rejoin the ranks.
When you think of Confirmation, does a checklist immediately come to mind? Instruct confirmation candidates about their Catholic identity and review Creed: check. Explore and define the gifts of the Holy Spirit: check. Teach the importance of choosing a proper saint and sponsor: check. The list of to-do’s can seem endless and overwhelming. Phaedrus said, […]
But, as rewarding as youth ministry is, it’s also challenging for all of us. Navigating that priest-youth minister relationship can be awkward. It is, after all, multi-faceted: shepherd-sheep, employer-employee, co-workers in the vineyard, etc. Keep in mind that it is a delicate dance for the priest as well, as he serves as spiritual father as well as administrator of all the people entrusted to his care, including you, your core, and your teens!
The excitement, the anticipation, the preparation, the prayers, the laughter, the tears, the wonder, the awe of bringing middle school youth into a life-changing encounters with Jesus Christ. There’s nothing like it!
I am entering my 9th year of Edge and have just launched Edge at a second parish in my diocese. So, no matter where you are in your journey of all things Edge, I can probably relate to what you’re going through. Here are a couple of things I’ve learned — and often need to be reminded of — when starting Edge:
The bottom line is we have to put our own growth and striving in holiness foremost and let our work in youth ministry follow and flow from it. Prayer, together with receiving the sacraments, is central to successful ministry. Or, better yet, as St. Augustine said: “Pray as if everything depended on God. Work as if everything depended on you.”
What would happen if you turned on your kitchen tap and nothing came out? When you go to the bathroom, the same thing. You even try your garden hose before realizing that your neighbors don’t have water either. After waiting 12 hours, the water still hasn’t come on. Something is wrong.
Do we need to know every detail of the teens’ lives? No. Nor do we need to broadcast every little thing to the entire youth group. Everything has its time and place. We just need to be open, available, and aware of what is going on just below the surface so that we can better serve our teens and help build community. We need to be with them on in their successes and their failings. As youth ministers and as volunteers, we can ask questions about their lives and passions. We can get our hands dirty in the muck and mire of life in order to show they are not alone.
We train our Core Team so they are equipped with the knowledge of how to be youth ministers. We need to give these incredible volunteers the tools and skills and resources they need to lead teens to Christ.
In my time of youth ministry I have had the privilege to work alongside college students seeking to chaperone summer trips or just help out at a Life Night. I am always amazed by their passion and zeal for the Gospel message and spreading this message with others. I have found not only do the teens benefit from college students, but the Core Team, myself as a youth minister, and the entire parish gains an enormous amount of wisdom.
It’s a good movie. I’m a fan of things that are well made, creative and beautiful. Without getting into specifics, I know that I personally have a harder time when a movie with religious implications comes out heavy on the cheese and light on the art. I assure you that this movie is excellent in production and acting. It’s a good movie with a message, not a good message with a movie. You can feel confident that a diverse group of teens will enjoy this movie, not just the ones in your youth ministry program that are “all-in.”
Has anyone ever noticed the ways in which the desire to serve can so easily become prideful?
It sounds weird, but it sneaks so deftly into ministry. We want so badly to do good work and we desire so deeply to serve Jesus that suddenly we begin to look at ministry, the Church, and the structures therein either as obstacles stopping us from doing the service that we deem worthy of our time, or a warped professional ladder in which success is defined by how many people hear our voices, see our faces or read our words.
Launching Life Teen each fall was like a fresh start for our ministry. There would be a new class of freshmen and a new class of Core Members. I wanted our first night to have a strong start. What does strong look like, though? Does it mean relevant? Bigger and better? Free food or quality free food? What about shiny and attractive?
Lately I’ve been spending a lot more time on sharing etymology (the origin of words) with teens. The results have been fascinating. The middle school and high school teens I’ve been discipling and speaking with can’t seem to get enough of it. One teen at our Life Teen Leadership Conference came up after Bible Study […]
You could hear quotes like “Get him a body bag!” being tossed around the playground during impromptu martial arts competitions. I listened to the cassette tape with the song “You’re the Best Around” until it wore out… and then I made another one. Some guys even started tying bandanas around their heads. Luckily, I dodged that fashion bullet.
Reflecting on that magical summer recently, it occurred to me how many important ministry lessons can be drawn from the film.
I felt like a freshman, but I there I was at prom on Friday night. I hadn’t been to prom since I was a senior in high school, but with a new job in the teaching field came the opportunity to chaperone prom. So, there I was watching high school seniors try to have the time of their lives. While the dance brought up a lot of thoughts and questions…
Let’s talk about something uncomfortable – total, humiliating defeat. Yesterday, Germany humiliated Brazil in the World-Cup semi-finals. I’m not much of a soccer fan, but I do know that generally the games have lower scores. It isn’t uncommon to see a final score of 1-0 or 2-1 – even a tie of 0-0 is possible.
We see that, like the tongues of fire that divided and fell on all in the upper room, the tongues, the speech and language of the apostles, divided and fell on the ears and hearts of all present in the crowd.
Recently, we published a Liturgy Planning Guide that included Sundays for March 9th to July 6th. Post-publication, we discovered an error within that Liturgy Planning Guide for June 29th, and we wanted to correct that for our subscribing parishes as they look forward to music, homily suggestions, and key words and themes for that Sunday.
Yesterday, it dawned on me how important it is to make sure that when the teens walk into our programs, they aren’t just meeting me or one of our Core Members, but that at EVERY event, they also have an encounter with our Lord. You see, one day they will graduate and move on. One day that Core Member will step out of ministry. One day I might not be their youth minister anymore.