Modest is Hottest


Edge Night Outline

Goal of this Night

The goal of this Edge Night is to make the youth aware of the fruit of the spirit called modesty in both what they wear and how they communicate. The goal is also to help them understand that modesty is not only about what they wear, but knowing the body is sacred.

About this night

When we hear the word modesty, we may think of someone being modest about his/her abilities or to be moderate in consumption. Modesty is also defined in the dictionary as “behavior, manner or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency.” This night will focus on our modesty of dress. This is likely to be a tough issue for both adults and youth. Most youth struggle with modesty because they do not see it being practiced often in media or in the fashion industry. Modesty is not meant to impart a strict set of rules, but rather to help us understand that we are created in the image and likeness of God, thus created to be modest. There is freedom found in not conforming to the current culture. Modest is also not only about what one wears, but also includes one’s speech and conduct as well.

The Edge Night begins with a fun look at how others would define the word modesty. The Proclaim will use several situations that are a visual for the discussion of modesty of clothing, speech and behavior. During small group, be prepared for difficult questions about what exactly is modest clothing and what is not. There may not be a definitive answer, but use the quotes from the Catechism of the Catholic Church as a guide.


Create a video of youth, teens and adults answering the question: “What is modesty and why is it important”? You could also ask: “Is modesty just about what you wear? Why or why not?” Interview people from your parish as well as from the community. Edit the video for content and timing for your Edge Night.

Parental Notice

Our topic tonight was on modesty. The goal was to help your child understand our call as Catholic Christians to set an example of modesty in our language, behavior and our clothing (1 Timothy 4:12). Middle school is an important time to begin developing virtues that lead toward modesty in order to be an example for others. As a parent, this is a great opportunity to discuss the issue of modesty and your family’s expectations for your child in the area of his/her behavior, language and dress. Together as a family, read through paragraphs 2521-2524 in the Catechism of the Catholic Church and discuss what the Church teaches about modesty and our need to practice modesty. Here are some questions for the ride home:

1. How would you define modesty?

2. Why do you think we are called to be modest in our language, behavior and clothing?


Create a large paper banner that says, “Modest is Hottest!” or “Modesty is Hottest U C!” Also, post the verse from 1 Timothy 4:12 on the wall: “Let no one have contempt for your youth, but set an example for those who believe, in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity.”

Supplies List

• Screen • Projector

• Rolls of crepe paper streamers

• Index cards

• Pens/pencils

• Props for Proclaim skit

• Handout A: “Catechism Modesty”

End of Free Preview

Thanks for reviewing this Edge Night! If you would like the full verison of this resource go ahead and sign in.

PDF Downloads

Download Extra Files and Handouts

Comment on this Edge Night

Share thoughts, ideas, and ways to improve the night with other youth ministers.