Too often as youth ministers we try to please everyone. We want to say “yes” to everything, but the problem is that the more we say “yes,” the more we risk over-complicating our ministry, watering it down, and burning ourselves out.
We do high school youth ministry, middle school youth ministry, and Confirmation preparation. We host Bible Studies and prayer groups. We plan multiple retreats, service projects, and mission trips throughout the year. We try to please teens, parents, our pastor, the parish staff, the diocese, parishioners who have “an idea of ways the teens can serve,” and more. It’s all very noble. It really is, but sometimes, we have to be willing to say, “no.” And the sad thing is, we don’t think we can.
I recently posed a question on my Twitter and Facebook pages to a variety of youth ministers asking, “What things do you wish someone told you before you became a youth minister?” After receiving a variety of responses, it was evident that there were many recurring themes. For those of you who are thinking of becoming youth ministers, and even for some of you grizzly veterans who have seen one too many high school productions of “Grease,” here are 10 things I wish someone told me before I became a youth minister (with a little help from my friends).
Goal for the Life Night:
The goal of the Night is to examine the individual causes of stress in our lives and to help the teenagers cope with and/or eliminate stress (and its sources) through a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ. Life Night at a Glance:
This is a Night designed to acknowledge the teens’ stress as valid, without immersing them so deeply in their stress that it elevates it while at the Night. It begins with fun games in small groups of teens. It continues with a very practical